You know, a coach was telling me about a meeting he had with someone who was uncoachable.
The person wasn’t doing so well with their business and was carrying high debt.
They wanted to be coached…but they still wanted to do things in their business “Their way”.
On further questioning, the coach discovered the person had never done any reflection on their performance or taken responsibility for the way things went in their business.
As far as they were concerned, everything that didn’t go the way they wanted, was someone else’s fault…circumstances or just plain bad luck. They spent a lot of time blaming.
It hit me hard hearing that.
When you don’t take responsibility, when you are blaming everyone else, when you give your power away to circumstances – you are probably not reflecting. You are probably not asking yourself the hard questions. You are probably stuck in ego!
Reflection is like cleaning your teeth.
If you clean your teeth morning and night, your mouth is fresh, your gums healthy and everything works well.
If you don’t clean your teeth for a week, your breath starts to smell and your gums start to swell.
…if you don’t clean your teeth for a month, you start experiencing pain when you eat and your gums are suffering.
…if you keep going like this, your teeth will fall out, your body will be constantly fighting infections and your quality of life descends to a new low.
That’s why I like to reflect regularly.
I don’t want to be the slave of my ego – ignoring reality in the service of propping up my ego.
So, make it your new habit.
Reflect on your daily activities – what did I do well…and what needs to improve?
Reflect upon your goals – what will be the pleasurable end results? What do you need to focus on? What actions do you need to take?
Reflect upon the year you’ve just lived…and on the year you intend to live in the next 12 months.
…it’s just like cleaning your teeth!
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