Overwhelm cuts off your thinking, like asthma cuts off your breath.

It’s probably the same feeling – gasping for breath, gripped by fear and panic.Tearing one's hair out

But it’s the truth – you just can’t think resourcefully when you are in overwhelm.

That’s why emergency workers practice their drills.  Practice, practice and more practice.

You  see, when the overwhelm hits you, you only have access to parts of your thinking ability.

The parts that you have embedded with practice can kick into action and something gets done.

That’s why you are reading this.Rollercoaster

You see, a real rollercoaster, just like any emotional rollercoaster in the world, is absolutely overwhelming the first time you ride it.

However, the more you ride it, the more familiar you become with the twists and turns, the ups and downs.

At a point after much practice, you can even function at a high level while still riding the rollercoaster.

That’s why business owners have a coach.

You see, it’s not just the strategy, not just the business smarts, you have all of that locked away in you.

The reason you have a coach is to step aside from the overwhelm, the coalface, the office, the factory floor…

…and you take a metaphorical breath…“ahhhhhhhh!”

…and you relax into yourself, and you find the answers to your questions…

….you remember your “Why”94372-your2bpurpose2bawaits

….and you come up with all manner of brilliant “How to’s”

You remember:

who you are,

what you stand for…

…and where you are going.

You leave your session refreshed, re-energised and renewed.

Overwhelm only happens when you stop reminding yourself of who you are, what you stand for and where you are going.

Why don’t you call and make an appointment with a coach who can really hear who you are.

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“In every age the present is merely the shifting point at which past and future meet, and we can have no quarrel with either. 

There can be no world without traditions; neither can there be any life without movement.

There is never a moment when the new dawn is not breaking over the earth, and never a moment when the sunset ceases to die… 

In the moral world we are ourselves the light bearers, and the cosmic process is in us made flesh.

For a brief space it is granted to us, if we will, to enlighten the darkness that surrounds our path.

As in ancient torch-races, which seemed to Lucretius to be the symbol of all life, we press forward torchPassing the baton in hand along the course. 

Soon from behind comes the runner who will outpace us.

All our skill lies in giving into that hand the living torch, bright and unflickering, as we ourselves disappear in the darkness.” 

Havelock Ellis

How F~E~A~R cripples your motivation…

It’s amazing to think this, but there are all manner of fears that can kWhat would you do if you knew you couldnt failill your motivation stone dead.

And it’s no coincidence that we, masters of justification that we all are, build credible and persuasive stories around those fears, to make ourselves right about why we can’t move forward in the direction we really want to go in.

That’s why it’s always good to ask yourself one simple question when you find yourself crippled with fear, stopped dead in your tracks, on the way to achieving something you really want to achieve:

“What do I want more?  The pleasurable end result of doing what I want to do or: being right about why I can’t do it?”

Getting the timing right to ask yourself this question, will give you the awareness that this is all a mechanical process and put you in the position of you being able to make a conscious choice for yourself.

Good luck with unleashing yourself!

Making Partners of Enemies

“If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.”   Nelson Mandela

Returning to Sydney not long ago, I was struck by the rift in our communities.

Especially with the Lebanese community – this was a political football that the media loved to kick around.

Nothing positive looked like it was being done.

The threat of terrorism was used to feed fear and xenophobia, pretty much the same way it was done with our Greek, Italian, Chinese and Vietnamese fellow citizens when they first were noticed living amongst the status quo.

It always takes time to integrate.  And this time is best spent building on people’s natural decency, humanity and desire for a better life.  There are some great things that are being done, that the media don’t think is worth telling you about.

That’s why I’m writing  you this post.

You see, that wasn’t just a great quote from Nelson Mandela – that was the theme of a recent interview at South Australia University with a former Irish President; Mary McAllese.

This is an hour and a half program, yes – it’s long,  but it’s a master class in what it takes to take the pathway of inclusiveness, peace and positivity.

Mary McAllese is also a fascinating speaker.

What enemy can you make a partner of?

“If” by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

The Emotional Rollercoaster of running a business.

Hang on!

You are strapped into the emotional rollercoaster of owning your business.

Please remember the sign that’s on every rollercoaster in the world as it clicks its way up the first big hill.

It says:  

“Please keep your hands &legs within the car. Under no condition must you try to get off the ride while the car is in motion”.

Just follow the instructions.

There are dizzying heights, tummy in your throat lows, there are unexpected twists and turns everywhere and you only get clear headed when you have done the rollercoaster many times.  Then you know what to expect.   You have learned this roller coaster.

I meet lots of business owners, usually on the low part of the curve…they quickly remember what’s important and their progress to the higher levels happens fast.

However, they get a shock when their car shoots down the depths again.

The trick is not to worry: “This too will pass”.

The highs of the business owner emotional rollercoaster are pretty wonderful.

The trick is to see both the highs and lows as a proceess, a part of the whole experience and, as Rudyard Kipling so beautifully put it in his poem “If”:

“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster, and treat those two impostors just the same;” 

As a business owner, you need to develop the resilience to ride the emotional rollercoaster.  The only way to do that is through practice.

“Keep your hands & legs within the car. Under no condition must you try to get off the ride while the car is in motion”.

What use is this concept to your business leadership?  Let me know.

Leaders Loving their Team

Things are getting tougher and tighter in business and many business leaders take their attention off their team and put it totally onto the bottom line.

“If it’s not the bottom line, then it doesn’t count!”

That’s a short sighted strategy that’s heading toward a stressed out and ineffective team.

You see, business leaders need to love their staff…or at the very least, have their staff feel loved.

That’s why I’m writing this to you.

You know, my dad, an ex-serviceman, introduced me to his General twenty years after the war.

His General went to London to fight for his men so they wouldn’t be used as imperial cannon fodder.

My dad never forgot.  Twenty years later, he would have done anything for this man.

You know, I have never forgotten the times my leaders have gone into bat for me.  I still would do anything for these people, who I could count on one hand.

And you’ll find that I barely remember the leaders who dealt with me like a number, an unrecognised face in the crowd.  These are the majority of leaders, people who are filling a role, going through the motions, expecting people to be motivated by the money and the security.

The leaders who love their followers are few and remarkable indeed.

The loyalty and passionate engagement of their people stands out from the norm.

The good news for you is that the habits of a loving leader can be learnt.

I recently met a stressed out man who had been in an organisation for ten years.

He showed me a bunch of physical photos of all the team building activities, the trust exercises, the silly in-house talent quests, the celebrations and the team bonding days.

Just sharing them with me, his stress was falling away.

These things were meaningful for him and they certainly touched me.

There was this fierce tribal sense of belonging, there was meaning and everyone counted.

These things are now considered out of fashion in the corporate world.  What good to the bottom line does spending time hugging trees and singing Kum Bai Yah around the  campfire?   Scorn is heaped upon the old experiments.

They come from a time when business leaders were innovating and building long term relationships of trust and loyalty.

Now, most leaders lead from afar, the ivory tower once again the norm, the leaders protected by legalistic systems managed by often web-based HR departments.  The people who man the workstations, are all expendable and it doesn’t pay to get to know them.

What is your leadership style?

Are you taking care of the people  who are following you?

Do you know who they are?

Are you taking every opportunity to show them you care?  That you are interested?

Are you investing and connecting with your team, and at this time, will they do anything for you?

You can only imagine, leading with love.

Greatness comes when you do that little bit extra than the norm.

Let me know what you think.

Finding your courage

It’s been a week of conversations about how fear stops us in our business and personal aspirations.

Just like the story with the five blind men trying to describe an elephant, there are at least five points of view about how you can find your courage to stay in action, moving forward.

Last night I attended a cloud accounting seminar and one of the neat things I  heard about was how you could create, as a result of cloud effieicnencies, a real time dashboard of your business key indicators.

That sure would be handy.  In the same way that a dashboard on a car allows you to keep that forward momentum and be aware of what’s going on in the logistics of the car – now that would help an adventurer and entrepreneur maintain their courage and ccertainly their focus.

So what are your key figures?  What are you doing to keep your finger on their status?   If you knew what was going on in the engine room, what kind of difference would that make in your life or business?

What can you do to get some kind of dashboard in place?

When are you going to do it?

Let me know.

Business owners and entrepreneurs have a different relationship with fear.

When you are in the business of images (3)

chasing a business idea or

bringing a new product or service

to the world, you have a different relationship with fear.

In fact, to most people, you are seemingly acting in a completely different way to “normal” people

…in the face of fear…or fearful circumstances.images (2)

If you don’t develop this attitude,

chances are,

you’ll never ship.

If you don’t ship your products and services,

you are neither an entrepreneur or a business owner.

These types of people somehow figure how to deal with fear…images (1)

…and keep moving forward, regardless.

When are you going to face your fear and ship…and ship again and again?

Really – you either stand for something…or you will fall for anything.

That takes you having a spine – are you up for it?

 

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