(Or at least: how we react to change)
This often happens: when we are confronted by sudden and unexpected change, instead of launching straight into action, we start off by going into DENIAL – “This can’t be happening to me – it’s not happening to me!” You react by denying that the situation is happening. In coaching, we call this: “Possum frozen in the headlights”
The next stage, RESISTANCE, is where you experience emotion – sometimes fiery, sometimes feelings of heaviness and great +sadness – this is the stage where you experience intense emotion about your situation. The phrase: “Better out than in” is appropriate in this stage, because until you experience your emotions fully, you stay stuck in resistance.
After you work your way through your emotional rollercoaster in resistance, then you will eventually reach an experience of Acceptance of the situation as it is …and then, and only then, you are able to explore options and start to develop a plan. That’s because you can’t think clearly through the processes of Denial and Resistance. Only when you come to accept what’s so, can you begin to think clearly and resourcefully. Welcome to your realm of personal brilliance.
The next stage, you are Committed and in action, working the plan. Getting to this place sometimes takes some time, the more you understand the different stages, the more able you are to push yourself through this cycle. Your trick is to keep your awareness
Sometimes our bodies take us through the cycle of change so we can adapt to changes that are too big, too traumatic to handle.
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